Pet Loss
As a pet photographer, I am often called to photograph beloved pets who are nearing the end of their life. I am honored to be trusted to photograph these important moments. In talking with pet parents, I hear things lie “She was just a dog.” Or “Why am I so upset?”
None of these things is helpful. Loss is loss, and it’s a sign that you loved your pet. Love without loss is rarely possible.
The loss of a pet is real, painful and involves the same grief process as any loss, human or otherwise.
I want you to know that losing a pet is one of the most difficult experiences that a pet parent can face. Pets become cherished members of our families, providing unconditional love and companionship throughout their lives. When they pass away, it can leave a deep void in our lives and bring about a range of emotions, including sadness, anger, and loneliness.
One of the most common feelings associated with pet loss is guilt. Pet parents often wonder if they could have done more to prevent their pet's death, or if they made the right decision when it came to end-of-life care. It is important to remember that pet parents make the best decisions they can with the information they have at the time, and that it is normal to have feelings of guilt after a pet dies.
You may feel lonely. Pets are constant companions, and their absence can leave a significant void in our daily routines. It is important to recognize this void. Some pet parents find it helpful to spend time with friends and family, volunteering at an animal shelter, or pursuing a new hobby or interest. It is OK to long for your pet, and to just be sad. You may find that you experience many emotions at once, or that emotions come in waves.
However you are feeling, it’s important to allow yourself to welcome the feeling and try not to push it away. Grieve in your own way. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and everyone experiences grief differently. Some people find solace in talking about their pet and sharing memories with others, while others prefer to grieve in private.
One way to honor the memory of a pet is to create a memorial or tribute in your pet’s honor. This can include creating a photo album, planting a memorial tree or garden, or making a donation to a pet-related charity. These tributes provide a way to keep the memory of our pets alive and help us feel connected to them even after they are gone. In our Minneapolis St Paul area there are a number of foster based rescues that would welcome your time or financial resources.
Consider the meaning of your grief experience. When a pet dies, it’s natural to question the meaning and purpose of pets in your life. Coming to terms with these questions is another need you must meet during your grief journey. Know that it's the asking, not the finding of concrete answers, that is important.
Remember that healing takes time. Grief is a process, and it is normal to experience ups and downs as you navigate your loss. Be patient with yourself and seek support from others when needed.
